When Kalena was one, I took her on our first daddy-daughter date. It consisted of a pastry, apple juice, and coffee for me. We watched through the window as the city decorated the Christmas Tree while we dined on the pastry and I cleaned up the spilled apple juice. But I will never forget the experience or the look in her eyes of the joy she was feeling. I was hooked.
Years later, not only do I get to date my wife, but I have frequent dates with all three of my girls. Sometimes we go to to Taco Truck, other times we go to Cracker Barrel. But its no so much the location that is important to me, or to them, but its the experience that we enjoy. And whether then know it or not, but I am creating expectations for them.
Here are a few reasons why I do daddy-daughter dates.
Daddy-daughter dates give me time, and them time to spend quality one-on-one time with each other. It gives me time to instill values into my daughters. They need to know that they are important to me, and that they are getting the attention that they need. The life of a parent is crazy busy. And while I spend time with them every day, dates give me opportunity to spend one-on-one time with them.
Remind them where their beauty comes from
But not just that, but it gives me time to talk about the good that is in their lives. I try to remind them regularly that they are beautiful, not just on the outside, but on the inside. And that only living for God will give them internal beauty. As a parent, I am horrified at the emphasis our culture puts on external beauty. I want to combat that by reminding them daily that they are beautiful to their parents, but they are also beautiful to God. He made them and created them as they are. They are beautiful as they are.
Creating intentional opportunities
As they get older, I want these dates to be opportunities for them to communicate with me whatever is on their mind.
This is their time with their dad. I want to be an earthly example of their heavenly father. No, I am not anywhere close to who God is, but I want them to know that not only can they come to me with their problems and joys, but they can know that they can always go to God.